Trying to conceive is an emotional roller coaster with many highs and lows, especially if it doesn’t happen right away. You may just be starting on the trying to conceive roller coaster. Questions may be filling your mind about what will be happening in your body and your mind during the next few months or years.
When you decide to start a family you become very excited. You and your husband are filled with joy at the idea of becoming parents soon. Telling your family and friends about your decision creates more excitement. Family and friends promise you baby clothes and furniture. You and your husband start planning for a nursery and try out baby names. You start counting the weeks to see when your baby will be born.
If you are one of the many couples who doesn’t conceive right away, you might feel like you have hit a brick wall. You start to feel many emotions including confusion, anger, shame, sadness, and failure. If you feel like I’m talking to you right now, don’t give up. Keep reading.
The first reaction of many women who have difficulties conceiving is to feel shame. When we first began to have problems, I felt like it was all my fault. My cycle was very irregular after stopping birth control. I felt like there was something wrong with me. If I only ate better, exercised more, took better vitamins… I have come to realize that it’s not my fault. I have not done anything to decrease my chances of getting pregnant.
Month after month of trying without a pregnancy gets very frustrating and confusing. This can be very trying on a marriage. A husband often doesn’t know what to do when his wife cries uncontrollably. Often, a woman who has trouble conceiving starts to think that there is something wrong with her body. She begins to blame herself. When a woman thinks she’s to blame, she may close off the communication with her husband. She may feel like she is the only woman going through this. Anger can also creep in and control a marriage when there are difficulties trying to conceive.
One of the most important things a woman needs to remember when trying to conceive is to keep the lines of communication open with her husband. This is something she and her husband as a couple are trying to achieve. Her husband really needs to be a part of it. I know I give my husband too much information about my cycle and my emotions, but he really feels like he is a part of this. I also think this helps him to understand why I have the emotions I do at a particular time. When both people in the marriage keep communication open, failure does not become an option.
There are many things you can do to help relieve the stress of trying to conceive. Just remember that others have gone through this. You are not the only one.
One way to help with the emotions you might be experiencing is to find some sort of support group. This could consist of a group online or a group in your town.
There are many online forums dealing with infertility issues. Pregnancy.org is one . You are very likely to find someone who is in a similar situation as you. It is great to have someone who you can talk to about how you are feeling. You will be able to cry together, laugh together, encourage each other, and celebrate successes together.
Infertility bible studies are another way to help relieve the stress of trying to conceive. Relying on God can help you to take back the hope you once had. There are many women in the bible and many modern day Christian women who had difficulties conceiving. By learning about their situations and how they dealt with them, you may find relief from your pain. Check back soon for devotional and bible studies ideas.
Whatever you are going through, remember that you are not the only one. There are others who have similar pain. Find someone to bond with and take back the hope of having a child. Good luck!